So, after losing my job about a week ago I accepted another position with a retail company that I worked for before. I had a choice between working for this branch of the retail company or work for another retail company but in the same realm of clothing as the other store. I accepted the position because if this nursing job hunt never pops up, I may possibly move into management. It is not the way I want to go because I did not go to school for it but I will at least be able to survive and pay bills with this job.
The nursing job hunt has brought about nothing. I never thought that finding a job after school would be this rough, especially with having to be with this place for 2 years to pay for school. Job placement has been a huge joke of an assistance so I don't really know what to do at this point besides to sit and wait until I take my boards. There really is nothing else I can do and it is driving me nuts.
Wedding planning, so far, has been smooth. The next things that we are going to work on are the DJ and the shuttle service for after the reception. We have all the other big stuff so we are going to be moving on to the small stuff. The DJ is the last "big" thing that we would need for the reception. The wedding party has been picked and the best man had been picked. I am waiting to see what happens with some other events (outside of the wedding) to pick the maid of honor. I don't want to pick someone who is going to be far away from the city and have them be responsible for planning and attending every event, help me with dress stuff, and possibly some decisions.
The guest list is getting the final touches for the family and right now I am trying to be patient with my mother. Yesterday, she called me about a message I sent her asking to review the list and make sure that there are no family members that MIGHT need to be added to the list. After talking to her about people that were on there and should be on there, she tells me, "Well, I wasn't going to invite the Medinas because you don't know them and they don't know you." I was immediately confused because I can place a face with all of the names that she named and one of them was my confirmation sponsor. I was really appalled that she was not going to invite my dad's family. So I may be adding some names to the list. After that discussion, she then tells me, " Since you are keeping this small I think that you should either just have two small showers, one small shower, or I will just give you money so that you can buy whatever you want." My reply was that I am okay with a small shower. She then says, "Well, I don't really want to make any big announcements/ call outs for the shower because I really don't think it is worth my sisters and family coming in for the shower when the families are so far apart." This is where I have an issue because my brother in-law's family is from the same exact area as my finance's family. I am not sure who moved but everyone is still in the same place. This is the thing that kills me. She is annoyed that we picked our venue, bridal party, wedding date, and have guest list power without her. My fiance and I are paying for this wedding on our own and that means that we have the final say in just about everything, if not everything. I am really upset about this because she doesn't think that we aren't worth sending out a piece of paper to her family to invite them to a bridal shower. Right now, I feel like if my maid of honor plans a shower that she won't be involved in any of it unless she wants to be a guest. My fiance did not really understand my frustration with being told that my mother doesn't want to WASTE the time and energy to help plan a bridal shower let alone WASTE her family's time by inviting them to such an event. I really feel like we should just go to the justice of the peace and then have the reception next year at the Barn and not tell anyone. These past few years have been the least supported by my family (namely my mother and her family) so this makes me feel like they shouldn't be there.
Any ideas on how to keep this drama to a no boil and not let it go to a full boil?
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